posted 3 years ago
I have long wavy/curly hair. I've tried co-washing, water-only, no-water, baking soda, oils, and various kitchen ingredients.
As a kid/teen I shampooed only. After all the point was just to get it clean right? Why would I bother with anything other than shampoo? My hair was a dry, frizzy mess, always tangling, and my scalp was always oily.
For many years I did co-washing only, every day, except for the occasional light shampoo when my hair got stringy, and it worked really well. A good substitute for conditioner has been a hard one. I've experimented extensively with oils, but they work differently than conditioner. Conditioner isn't just oil, but it has a very emollient surfactant in it too (this is in fact the active conditioning agent, and why co-washing can work so well over a long period of time, because there's still a surfactant cleaning your scalp).
No water, just brushing dry, worked well too. It didn't preserve my curls at all (it straightened my hair dramatically) but my scalp oils were all I used, just needed to distribute them onto my hair. This method requires daily scalp massage and brushing/finger brushing to distribute the oils otherwise the scalp can get buildup. Overall it was more time-consuming to get good results.
Eggs did nothing and mayo made my head smell like a deli sandwich for weeks. I do use gelatin on my hair about once a month or so, after shampooing. Most food proteins are too big to penetrate and do much to hair, but gelatin protein is partially broken down so some can actually enter the hair shaft and strengthen the hair.
Water-only didn't work for my hair. The natural scalp oil repels water so the scalp didn't get clean efficiently and the oil didn't move efficiently through the hair. Combing the hair while wet with no product to give it lubrication is damaging to the hair - wet strands are liable to stretch and break, and the water adds weight which exacerbates this. Even hot water didn't move the oil too well and it dried out my ends. I ended up with a greasy scalp, dried out ends, and a lot of short hairs.
Baking soda and vinegar damaged my hair. Baking soda is very alkaline and can rip open the cuticle of your hairs very fast. This is what happened to me. Even with a vinegar rinse, the birds-nest texture from the damage lasted for weeks before heavy conditioning made it unnoticeable. If you try this, start with a very dilute solution of baking soda and always always always follow-up with an acidic rinse. Hair is naturally slightly acidic and alkaline products can be highly damaging. Commercial shampoos and conditioners are all neutral or slightly acidic for this reason. Same goes with using bar soap on the hair - it tends to be alkaline unless skillfully made so use caution and follow up with an acidic rinse.
Recently I've been oiling my scalp, shampooing, and then conditioning well, but only once every week or two. In between I wet my hair and use a bit of homemade curl cream (conditioner, glycerin, and coconut oil) to enhance my curls. This is the least-work method that has worked for my curls yet, and overall uses less product than co-washing daily. I don't use a lot of shampoo - about a pea sized amount for my mid-back hair. No suds are visible.
Everyone is different. My husband has straight short hair and any conditioner or oil on his hair makes his head look plastered. I tell him to only use shampoo. Any damaging drying effect from the shampoo will be cut off before it's noticeable. When my daughter was born, I assumed co-washing would be best for her, as it was for me. However, her fine hair was weighed down quickly so shampoo and conditioner was best. However, when her hair got very curly after puberty, co-washing started working better and is what she's doing now.
For most of my life, I did not use soap on my body at all, except for my hands and if I was actually *dirty*. However after giving birth, I have had much more of a propensity to rashes and have found soap to help with that, so recently I have been soaping and moisturizing rash-prone areas of my body once a week or two. For my face specifically, I cleanse with cold cream rather than soap. I discovered as an acne prone teen that harsh soaps/scrubbing made acne worse despite what all the beauty gurus would say. I came to the conclusion that acne gets worse with stress. When the skin is stressed from being dried out or scrubbed, it will have less resistance against acne bacteria and you get acne. Cold cream or oil cleansing is much gentler and doesn't dry out the skin. It works on the principle of like-dissolving-like (oil dissolving and mobilizing oil) and it removes dirt and excess oil, but always leaves a layer of oil behind to keep the skin moisturized. As I've gotten older and my skin has dried out, cold creams still work for me because it's creates an ideal balance rather than going to an extreme. These days, a traditional cold cream can be hard to find. The famous Pond's changed their recipe and now it's just a bunch of petroleum and preservatives. So I mostly make my own with water, olive oil, beeswax, and rose oil, and sometimes a little borax to help it emulsify if needed. (look up Galen's cold cream recipe - it's 2000 years old!) In a pinch, any liquid oil will work, so I will grab a cooking oil from the kitchen (olive oil at home) if I run out of cream. I use the same cream/oil for moisturizing the rest of my body and used it on my babies instead of diaper cream.
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